When it comes to relationship advice articles, there’s nothing worse than those damn, “Fifty’leven Ways Love Was Better For Our Grandparents Than It Is Today” pieces that insist on comparing different generations without any of the substantive nuance or context. These articles sadly proclaim the impossibility of finding a quality mate in 2016, while acting like everything was nice and easy back when dudes were rocking zoot suits and conks, as if divorce, cheating and general unhappiness didn’t exist.
But, as much as I’m against comparing how love impacts different generations, there’s one thing I will give the people who cling to the assertion that dating is more difficult now. We definitely have more stages of dating than any previous generation. From chilling, to getting to know each other, to seeing each other, to talking to each other, we’ve inundated ourselves with a plethora of different steps we must achieve before we can finally just say we’re together in a committed relationship.
Basically, most of us are in complicated relationships, not because anything is wrong, but because it just seems to take longer to “graduate” to monogamy.
With that said, there’s one problematic belief that I see too many dudes pushing on social media that far too many women are easily falling for. And it’s the idea that a woman must be loyal during the “talking” stage in order to prove that she’s loyal enough to take it to the next level.