Yes, new relationships can be wonderful and exciting and special and we all love that ‘falling in love’ feeling. Well, I’m sorry to be a Debbie downer but sometimes it’s just not right for you! There are a million great reasons to get into a relationship but today we’re going to take a look at some of the reasons just that aren’t so great. These are 5 reasons that you should slam on the breaks and stop rushing into new relationships.
1. You don’t love yourself enough
Sometimes, we just want to feel loved, that’s natural, but you know who should love you more than anyone? You, of course! The more you love yourself the less likely you’ll be to throw yourself into relationships that are bad for you just because you want to feel loved. And when you make yourself number one, your chances of finding the right person for you go through the roof! So do me a favour and show yourself some love today.
2. You’re trying to get over someone else
We’ve all heard the phrase “the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else”, but that just ain’t true! If you’re still mourning your last relationship, the only way you’re gonna get through it is by giving it time. If you rush into something new while you’re still pining over your ex, it’s not going to be a great relationship for you or the other person and you’ll just end up right back where you started. Give it time and move on when you’re ready!
3. You’re lonely
Do you really want to jump into a new relationship just because you think you need someone, anyone there? Of course not! That’s only going to lead to you throwing yourself into a relationship with the first person who comes along, no matter how bad for you they are. Trust me, you can do better and you don’t need a relationship to make you whole! Instead of looking for someone else to fill the void, work on yourself! Pick up that new hobby you’ve always wanted to try, go out with your best friends, rediscover old favourite pastimes, before no time you’ll be wondering why you felt so lonely in the first place!
4. You need to feel comforted
Yes, I know, it’s nice to have someone there at the end of a bad day who can take care of you and tell you that everything’s going to be alright, but that’s no reason to go and jump into a bad relationship! If you really need to feel cozy and warm and safe, why not give your home a total makeover instead? That way, when you sink into your big comfy bed alone, you won’t care that there’s nobody there with you. If anything you’ll just be pleased because you can stretch out as much as you like without kicking someone in the back. Heaven!
5. Because other people want you to be in a relationship
How many times has your mom/grandma/auntie/co-worker/whatever asked you if you’re getting married and having babies and settling down for life yet? If your family’s like mine, it’s probably about a billion times just over the course of one family dinner. It’s easy to want to cave under pressure like that but you’ve gotta be strong! This is your life and you don’t want to waste it on bad relationships just because people want to see you settled down! Heck, you might not even want to be in a relationship ever again and that’s totally fine too! Who cares what the haters think, you’re fabulous and you got this!
What did you think of those 5 reasons to stop jumping into new relationships? Have you ever fallen into the trap of a bad relationship because of one of those reasons before? Tell us all about it in the comments and share this article with your friends and family! Most importantly though, don’t forget to love yourself, you wonderful human being!