Wedding Planners Reveal The Secrets They Don't Tell Their Clients


Weddings are one of the most important events in any couple’s life.

It’s supposed to be a special time where they publicly commit themselves to one another, in front of their friends and family.

Couples often spend a lot of time and money on these huge events, with the average wedding costing $26,720!

It’s a serious occasion that takes a lot to organize!

When most people plan a wedding, a lot of effort is put in to make it look nice.

From finding the perfect wedding dress, the best suits, bridesmaids dresses, even the right flowers, and venue! Everything has to be perfect.

If your spending all that money, better make sure it’s what you want and that it looks rather spectacular, right?

Since there is so much to organize some people turn to a wedding planner to help them plan their perfect wedding.

Over the years wedding planners gather together a whole heap of secrets about their trade, secrets that they wouldn’t dare tell their clients!

So, we’ve gathered together some of the wedding industries biggest secrets from a few trusted wedding planners.

1)  Something will go wrong.

Let’s be honest, a wedding is basically a rave that won’t offend your parents.

There are lots of moving parts when it comes to planning a wedding, and there’s bound to be at least one part that manages to malfunction on the way. 

Wedding planners emphasize the “plan,” but they also know how to think on their feet. Their vans are full of last-minute replacements and fixes, and of course, safety pins.

Lots and lots of safety pins. You would be surprised by how much these things save the day!

2) Momzilla

The sweetest brides often have the most obnoxious mothers.

We’ve heard a lot about bridezillas, but brides aren’t often the problem. 

Wedding planners have way more horror stories about the mother of the bride rather than the bride!

Some moms will try to micromanage every detail. So quite often most professionals try to placate an over-involved mother of the bride while defying their orders at every turn.

3) Wedding planners can be quite picky.

If you have your heart set on a certain vendor, make sure you mention that to your planner right away. 

A lot of wedding planners work with a group of vendors—florists, bakeries, and musicians who work together like a well-oiled machine.

It’s your wedding, so feel free to have someone else do your bridal bouquet. Just don’t spring that choice on your planner at the last minute!

4) Drama is part of the job.

Sometimes wedding planners end up playing the role of a family therapist.

They don’t love it when that happens because they’re not paid for that, but the real professionals know how to keep a supportive front.

5) There can be lots of behind-the-scenes action to make you look amazing.

Jane Kernen, wedding planner and owner of Austin Busy Brides, told Brides magazine about a time she saved a groom’s reputation. 

The groom was in charge of the seating cards for the reception. While he managed to get all the names right, he forgot to add table numbers.

Kernen said:

“I discreetly asked the bride for her list of guests.

“I did not want to worry the bride nor get the groom in trouble…Then, I enlisted a staff member to help me go through every name, find the table number, and write it on the escort card.

“No one was the wiser and the groom was very grateful for fixing his mistake.”

6) Being a wedding planner can get gross.

People often think the worlds of weddings is grand and glamorous, but wedding planners often end up with some pretty unglamorous things.

They often have to count used napkins and tablecloths before sending them back to the rental service.

7) Wedding planners answer to the one who’s paying the bill.

If your parents pay for your entire wedding, technically they are the client so they get the final say.

To keep total control over your wedding, you’ll have to foot the bill yourself. 

8) If something goes wrong, you’ll be the last to know.

One of the wedding planner’s most important jobs is keeping the bride and groom calm during the wedding.

One wedding planner told Reader’s Digest about the time the serving staff started eating the cake before the guests got a slice.

The planner decided to take what cake was left and cut it into thinner slices for the guests. 

9) There is a pecking order. 

Wedding professionals know that the most important person at the wedding is the bride. The second most important person is the MOB. After that, everyone’s basically equal.

The second most important person is the mother of the bride, and then after that everyone is equal.

10) Whatever you’re paying your wedding planner, it’s not enough.

Planning a wedding is a very intense process, that’s why many people turn to outside help!

Part of the wedding planner’s job is to act like everything’s going as smoothly as possible, which is a lot of work!

They also take a lot on a lot of stress from the logistics of the event!

11) Every bride should work with the wedding planner personally.

Some brides think it’s a great idea to appoint someone else to go over plans with the planner, but no matter who they pick it’ll never be themselves. 

By using someone else to talk to the planner, it’ll just make the relayed message more garbled. 

Make time for your wedding planner, that’s the only way you’ll get the wedding you want.

12) If your planner tells you to make a backup plan, make one.

The chance of rain at an outdoor wedding in spring is always likely.

Experienced wedding planners know how to set up the perfect back up plans. That’s why you should never leave this detail up to chance!

You might have to pay a little more for some pop-up tents and tarps, but when it starts to rain the morning of your wedding, you’ll be glad you did it!

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